Everything For The Bride

1. jdinsd Said,

   I think it’s wonderful personally! I’m a veggie, and would really appreciate a "veg" reception! These people that are coming to the wedding/reception are their friends, and if they are their real friends, they will completely understand and accept their "veg" status, and if people need to, they can choose to come or not, and go somewhere else to meet their specific dietary needs. (ie. those who feel they "need" meat).

   People will love and accept the wedding couple just as they are, and are not going to expect there to be meat.

   Also, it’s THEIR wedding. When the "in-laws" have their own wedding or whatever, then she/they can have all the meat options they want.

   And besides that, 99% of people can eat a veg meal, regardless if they are meat eaters, but not all people can eat an all meat meal if they are veggies.

   Also, a veggie meal is NOT necessarily boring or bland and not fulfilling! MANY recipes are out there, and if the right dishes are done properly, then people will have a truly wonderful and new culinary experience and terrific memories of their friends wedding!

2. Vegon Said,

   Of course not, it’s not selfish after all it’s their wedding anyway and they should count first.

   Furthermore you might teach a few people something – vegan food is great.

3. ganesh n Said,

   no,i think both of them are vegeterians,so enjoy the party.

4. Skydreamer Said,

   It’s selfish for the mother-in-law to think that other people’s opinions should come into play on someone else’s special day.

   If it means that much to them they should do it – it’s their day, and they shouldn’t need to remember it as the day they were forced to compromse their morals for other people.

5. spaznskitz Said,

   hehe…figures it would be the mother in law being a pain in the butt…

   no, it is NOT selfish it is THEIR day…mom in law can stop at mcdonalds on the way from the church to the reception…

6. acille1jo Said,

   Absolutely not.
   1. It’s their wedding and their day.
   2. Omnivores don’t cater to vegans
   so why should vegans cow tow
   to them?
   3. Some omnivores who have never
   been exposed to vegan food will
   sample some and have a whole
   new world opened to them.
   4. Why have your conscience damaged
   on your wedding day due to having
   animal products around you that you
   yourself purchased?

7. mjrael Said,

   I am not a vegan but I respect the right to be one. I believe that if the Bride and Groom are vegans they would only compromise their principles if THEY ate other than vegan. The reality is most people are not vegan and there will probably be a majority of people at the wedding who are not as well. It may come across that they are imposing their principles on others who may remember this point over the happy occasion. Perhaps they could have 2 menus, one vegan and one conventional.

8. Emily Said,

   No, it’s not. It might be nice if they had served other foods, but it’s not too bad. I’m a veggie and I served meat at my Bat Mitzvah. It’s a personal choice, and it depends how offended they are that other people eat what they don’t want to.

9. Dart Said,

   Can’t anybody go one meal without meat?

   Maybe eating an all vegan cuisine could be her gift to the couple for their wedding. What is she going to do when she visits them for the holidays? how is she going to act when the kids start showing up and they are all vegan too? They won’t be allowed to go to grandma’s cause she is going to feed them meat.

   She needs to accept this now.

10. Missa Alyssa Said,

    Who’s fuckin’ wedding is it?? No, it most certainly is not selfish. They are there to celebrate and show their love and commitment to one another…not to play hostess to everyone and satisfy everyone. Obviously that is a part of them and their lives so they SHOULD share it with their guests. If you had vegetarian guests would you say "Is it selfish to serve Chicken or Beef?" If people are attending for any reason other than to congratulate them and celebrate their bond-they are wrong.

    One question: If the mother-in-law is already snicking her nose where it doesn’t belong where will it end? Someone needs to shut her down-politely-and remind her that her place is not on the alter but in the pews.

    Good luck to the happy couple…I wish them the best

11. srasaenz3406 Said,

    It’s their wedding! They should serve what they like!

12. kcarp73 Said,

    I went to a party (not a wedding) that had all vegan cuisine. I admit, some of the food was not my taste (the tofu kabobs and mock beef wellington)…but there were a few things that I thought where fantastic! I was really impessed with the selection, the variety of salads with nuts and fruit for example was wonderful. I think they should do what they want. As a guest, I wouldn’t be offended at all. It’s their preference. How many times has a vegan/vegetarian gone to an event and there not be any main dishes to accomidate them? I am sure that happens plenty.

13. Deb Said,

    It is totally not selfish! Why is the mother-in-law giving them grief? It’s not HER wedding. Congrats to the bride and groom I hope they enjoy their wedding.

14. lunachick Said,

    of course not. it’s THEIR wedding, not the mother inlaw’s.

15. Inali K Said,

    I absolutely do not think it is selfish of them to serve an all-vegan cuisine. It is *THEIR* wedding. There are many wonderful vegan dishes that even meat eaters can and do enjoy.

    They can make organic potato salad. 3-bean salad. Garden pasta salad. Salad. Organic cakes and desserts. There is so much yummy vegan food out there. It’s pretty sad that the future mother-in-law is an adult and still doesn’t want to eat her vegetables.

    A GREAT website for them to go to is veganessentials.com. I absolutely love the food there and they can get "chicken" and "ribs" that are tofu but it’s very hard to tell they aren’t real. This way, it’s vegan but the guests are happy too. Or at least it might get the mother-in-law off their back.

    I’m a writer and I’m writing a book about a wedding that goes to hell. I think I might put this issue in there as well as the bride character’s mother is vegan. lol

16. Jade Said,

    Absolutely not! It’s selfish for the guests to expect meat.

    A friend of mine served meat at his wedding at the insistence of his future mother-in-law. Not only did this totally put a damper on *his* special day, but it was totally appalling to all of his vegetarian guests.

    He’s divorced now, though, so no worries.

17. CR Said,

    No, the bride and groom are not selfish. Get a raw (or not raw) vegan chef. They will dazzle you with the magic they use to create delightul dishes!

18. Celtic Tejas Said,

    No it is not selfish.
    1) There is nothing there to hurt anyone. Everyone can have 1 meal without eating meat.
    2) It is their wedding.
    I bet it is a big hit.

19. Hercules' dirt box Said,

    No. I had all vegetarian food served at my wedding reception 17 years ago. (I have since become vegan). Some people were a bit shocked, but most people really liked the food. Weddings are celebrations of love and harmony, not the death and cruelty which is associated with meat.

20. stargatefix Said,

    No, not selfish at all! I am a vegan and plan on having an all vegan meal at my wedding as well.

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