I’ve heard that planning a wedding can be extremely stressful and difficult, but can be an amazing experience also. I’m just wondering, what was your favorite part? The most difficult? Is there anything you could have done to make the bad parts easier/more fun?
BQ: How long did you take to plan your wedding?
Worst part? Try parts. So far we have had two potential venues completely leveled, the first by construction, the second by fire. Thankfully we hadn’t put any money down, but it slowed planning down for sure. Then we had a florist take a deposit and VANISH off the face of the earth. Seriously, we even drove by her house, she doesn’t live there anymore, and any evidence that her business ever existed is gone. A few other really messed up things have happened, but I try not to dwell on them.
Best? We’re saving money on wedding invites because his dad is a graphic designer and can print whatever we want for the cost of paper. We’re also saving money on photography because a friend who is a pro is doing it for us for way way cheap because we are friends.
We’re still planning. I’m almost embarrassed to admit how long we have been trying to pull off a wedding, but if buildings hadn’t gotten torn/burned down, and florists weren’t shady, we would have been done by now.
I’m planning mine right now and so far the most difficult parts have been choosing colors and picking the bridal party. I honestly don’t hate any colors, so it was hard for my fiance and I to narrow down the colors. I also struggled with the bridal party because I didn’t want more than 3 or 4 on each side. There were a few people where I was in their wedding, so I felt obligated to have them in mine, but then we would go over the 3-4 number.
My favorite part was the overall planning. It’s one big huge party and being able to plan that is awesome.
Best part: Being done with the planning and just getting to enjoy the wedding.
Worst part: When some things my sister and mother said were misconstrued and repeated back to me, and I thought they were honestly concerned I couldn’t pull the wedding planning off. Huge misunderstanding.
BQ: I was engaged for nine months, and spent probably six or seven of them doing the actual planning work.
To make things easier, don’t stress the small stuff. Skip it. Likely nobody will notice.
Best part: actually getting married
Worst part: the waiting
Our engagement was a year long, and we got a lot of planning done early on, so the rest of it was just….waiting. Not fun
I loved the creativity of making it a great day for a lot of people for very little money. I enjoyed all the goofy little details and finding the best value for what we wanted. I liked organizing the volunteers and the vendors and figuring out how to make everyone feel a part of the event.
Pretty much enjoyed it so much that I went into the business of working as a wedding coordinator, specializing in low budget weddings.
Most difficult part was planning from across the country for my NY wedding.
The drama from friends and family- My best friend dropped out and my sister in law actually flat out refused to help, or even check in to see how the planning was going.
It was mostly just A LOT of drama-nonsense from people! Our wedding coordinator at our venue was difficult to work with….. people made the experience miserable lol.
I guess the best part was venue-shopping in the beginning. They treat you like a queen because everyone’s trying to get you to book with them!!
I got engaged in Nov. ’09….. didn’t start planning until January ’11. My wedding was last month. <3 I had all the major stuff booked by March/April.
Best part: Enjoying our day that felt like it took forever to plan, being together with our friends and family, and seeing the fruits of our labor be enjoyed by all. Also, the cake tasting…fat kid happy
Worst part: Trying to come up with a strategic plan and have it all just kind of do its own thing, meaning that whenever we tried to plan something, it normally didn’t work out the way we wanted it, but that doesn’t mean that the end result wasn’t disappointing, LOL. Our plans just kind of went their own way, but it was still awesome.
BQ: It took us a little under a year to get everything planned, and 2 months of "crunch-time,’ which was everything that we couldn’t do until JUST before the wedding.
Worst part: Other people’s meddling
Best part: The actually getting married part, of course, but also seeing how cool of a wedding we could pull off with such a small budget. There was a lot of DIY and creative thinking that we were pretty proud of.
1 year from asking to wedding date- 4 months ish of actual planning.
Favourite part of planning: finding the perfect dress.
Worst part: having a strict Greek orthodox mother in law and a Christian husband and me an atheist.
Time: 9 months.
If I could do it again I would have done what he and I wanted and not what his mum wanted. It was stressful because it was her way or no way. We rented a house from her (at full price) if we didn’t do it her way she would evict us from house. I didn’t want to move until our own house was ready so I gave in to avoid packing while still planning.
By the way marriage lasted as long as it took to plan.
I had fun with it. It wasn’t stressful for me at all, but then again I’m a pretty carefree spirit. (why stress over things I can’t change)
My husband and his family were very involved in the planning. His mom and sister were a great help to me (us). My husband is middle eastern (Lebanese) so there were some traditions for that I didn’t understand or wasn’t aware of they (he) wanted to do.
My favorite part was I got to know my in-laws better. I got to form my own relationships with his family that didn’t necessarily revolve around him.
My least favorite part: Ignorance of others, which I’m sad to say was mostly people in my (extended) family. The type that think just because he (and his whole family) is middle eastern they *must* be terrorists or he needed citizenship/green card. They’re not my husband is a Lebanese-American, he was born and raised here.
Everyone that went had a great time. Some of his family who still live in Lebanon came here for the wedding and both families got to see how the others do things. His family got to see the American way of things and different things we do at weddings and mine got to see the Lebanese traditions of how they do things.
It took about a year and a half to plan it.
Best part- gathering ideas and watching them all come together.
Worst part- the guest list.
Not really. The challenge with the guest list was the fact that my parents wanted to invite some people that I didn’t care to invite. But they were paying so really, on that particular note, they had the final say. The only options to make it easier would be to either pay for it myself (although I’m sure they still would have wanted certain people there) or just leave it completely up to them and not worry about who is there (as long as the people I wanted there were also included).
BQ: My husband and I got engaged in March of 2005 and got married in June of 2006. So we planned for about 15 months.
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