My sister has asked me to give her away at her wedding since my dad passed a few years ago. Is there a special gift that a dad gives his daughter on that day (other than paying for the wedding – can’t really do that) and would be appropriate for her stand-in brother to give? If not are there any suggestions for a sweet and meaningful gift?
I’m a teenage and therefore have practically no money to spend for a gift. Plus, nothing at all against my brother and his fiance, I feel this way every time I buy somebody or myself something, but I like spending any extra money I happen to have on a charity. I always make my brothers and parents homemade stuff and they always enjoy them. The wedding is in June.
The bride’s brother will be giving her away and she wants him to carry the urn with her father’s ashes in one arm as he escorts her down the aisle. I think it would be more appropriate to light a candle in his honor or otherwise remember him. Any ideas?
I am from a Pakistani culture..this is what I hate (note not all Pakistani’s follow this so no hating on Pakistani’s lol)
- It is SO patriarchal
- Women expected to do ALL housework regardless if she has a job and kids to look after
- The man is always right
- Don’t give answers back to elders..its not even answering back rudely..your jusy explaining yourself..once I had someone say to me "If us the elders say milk is black YOU WILL HAVE TO AGREE AND SAY MILK IS BLACK" :O
- The bitchyness at Pakistani weddings "Omg look what she is wearing..the bride is so ugly for the groom" or vice versa "The food is SO cold" …and through out the wedding they got miserable faces and bitching about daughter in laws/ sister in laws (though I am sure non-Pakistani weddings are like this..(mind this occurs to the ones I have been to so may not really be a cultural thing so much)
- The lecture you get from relatives for wearing english clothing..even if your family is okay with it…its not like I wear revealing..
- Lecture you get for not eating roti and curry ..well mind you I prefer eating foods that are low in fat and carbs!
- Once you hit puberty..uh huh people start eyeing you up for marriage..like back of I still feel like a kid!
- If a girl talks to her boy cousin..even just the slightest hello how are you? "OMG SHE FANCIES HIM" "THEY GONNA GET MARRIED" err no, he is my cousin like a brother?!
- Its always about what relatives will think…for example EVERY EID for the past 10 years has been us at home and other people coming over to eat…I mean hello can we once in a while as a family go out on eid?! but fam replies "no what will relatives think?" OMG its the SAME people who come with the same talk
- The only convo you have with your relatives "what are you studying?" Have asked me that a gazillion times already!
- "Oh look at her she is so shy…(insert mums name) you should tell her she needs to visit more relatives otherwise she is never gonna get anywhere in life" ..err I am not shy..your just not making convo with me..and how is visiting my relatives gonna enhance my career prospects in life?! =S
- The women always stare at your chest and talk about it in a cringey way…like mind you can we not get too personal…you don’t talk to me normal..so stop getting so personal? where are the manners?!
- The whole concept of respecting your husband even if he cheats on you and/or beats you..you as a wife gotta maintain the relationship otherwise its your fault…. =O =O
excuse the typos..and I know half of the things aint cultural lol..
my brother age is 32.The bride age is 24.Bride’s mother is telling age is 8year less than my brother.they are expecting unto 29 ONLY.how to convince them to marry? how to make them convince and accept us.
what is the best way to convince them?
NOTE: we like much the bride and the horoscope also good for both.
Let me start with some basic info. I’m 19, going on 20. My fiancée and me have been together for 4+ years and he is the only man I’ve truly ever loved. My dad died in a car pile up, my mother died from various forms of cancer, my brother is an jerk with a bad temper, and the rest of my close family members are either in the hospital, sick, old, or all of the above. My sister-in-law and my aunt on my mom’s side are the only people in my family that are close to me. My aunt from my dad’s side, whom I’m currently living with due to my mother’s last wishes, does not support us getting married or even engaged and refuses to come to the wedding (the only reason I think she dislikes the idea is because she has had at least 2 failed marriages and thinks that marriage is meaningless). Every member of my family was either engaged or married between the ages of 17-23 and they all have had very long and happy marriages, except her, so basically the rest of my family members are ecstatic for us. Also, my best friend, who is like a sister to me, is wanting to be the one to give me away.
So my question is this: Who should give the bride away?
A. Sister-in-law (Took care of me while my mother was sick and acted like a 2nd mom to me)
B. My mother’s sister (Looks and act exactly like my mother and is blood related to me)
C. My Best Friend (Gave me the support that kept me sane after my parents deaths)
I want to buy a nice dress for my brother’s rehearsal dinner. I want it to be summer ready yet not too flashy (don’t want to take away from the bride). I’ve searched everywhere and cannot find a good dress. Does anyone have any websites or known clothing stores with attractive attire?