My cousin is getting married next week. I’m spending close to 0 (which I can’t actually afford) to go to the wedding. I’m one of the only family members who is even going to make it, so I definitely want to represent. Sadly, spending another on a gift is going to break the bank for me. The couple doesn’t want gifts, only money to contribute to their honeymoon. What can I do to avoid being embarrassed?
We are the parents of the groom. We have spent as much if not more already than the parents of the bride have. We gave a gift at the bridal shower also. We plan on just giving cash for a wedding gift to help with honeymoon expenses. We are not rich. We live in a rural area of Kansas! We both have to work and we do not make alot. How much should we give as a gift. Also paying for the rehearsal supper will cost us as they are having about 60 people at the rehearsal supper!
My partner and I have been together for 11 years and have lived together for 7 of those 11. So there is nothing really that we can ask for in a registry that we don’t already have.
We are spending nearly all of our savings to have a really nice wedding with all our family and closest friends spending almost 0.00 a head. So with only a small amount left for our honeymoon we have asked for money as a gift to help send us on our honeymoon.
Do you still think this is inappropriate?
I’ve been to weddings where the bride and groom leave at like 10pm and the wedding goes on until midnight. Where do they go to? A hotel? Straight to the airport for the honeymoon?
I have an upcoming wedding to attend. (i’m in the wedding party).
Rather than the couple being registered, they’re having a ‘honeymoon bowl fund’ at the reception. Do I, or should i still get them a gift, aside from the fund? I feel that I should…
also.
when a christian man becomes a bride and has jesus as his groom, does he take you somewhere exotic for your honeymoon?
I was EXHAUSTED last weekend. I was the MOH for my friends wedding. Here’s how the day went
up at 8:30
over at her mom’s house by 10am
10am – 1pm getting ready and pictures
1pm – 2pm get bride dressed and more pictures
2pm – 3pm shuttle to venue – drinking more champagne
3pm – 330pm – chilling in the bridal suite taking more pictures
330pm – 400pm – get bride ready for ceremony
400-500pm – stand on feet for an HOUR during the ceremony
5-6pm – more pictures
6 – 8 – dinner, my speech, pictures, talking
8 – 11 dancing, partying, drinking, talking to my friend the bride
11:30 – cake cut and garter toss
12am – I leave. Isaid goodbye to my friend and congrats etc.
The wedding was suppose to officially end at 1:30am but I was exhausted.
My friend came back from her honeymoon today and sent me an e-mail saying how hurt she was that I left her wedding early.
WTF?
my sister and her fiance are going to greece for their honeymoon. we are going to the bridal shower thrown by his family on saturday (i threw mine a couple months ago). at my shower his mom/aunt/sister all gave laura (bride) a ton of stuff off of the registry….for him. a grill and all the accessories. this totally crushed her and i want to get something for HER for their trip to greece. any ideas?
Is it considered trashy/cheap? I don’t want to feel awkward but it would be so nice to have a little extra money for our honeymoon. I am 23 and the groom is 25. I’m not sure whether it makes a difference but I am still finishing my BA degree and he already has his.
fizzy stuff- Dude you need to chill out. We haven’t even discussed it, I just wanted to know the etiquette from someone who has knowledge. You sound like you’re 15 years old so please avoid answering this question if you aren’t old enough to be married. You also sound like you’re jealous of someone who has a college education. I bet you work at wal-mart.
I gave a big check as a gift, the next day I took the bride and groom to the bank for them to deposit all the money they got as gifts from the wedding before dropping them off at the airport to go on their honeymoon so I know they opened the card and got my check (she gave me the box of cards to keep until she returned). I also checked my bank account and it shows it’s been cashed. Shouldn’t the couple have said thanks then or do I have to wait to get a thank you card a couple months down the road? It was a lot of money for me and they know I’m going through a foreclosure. She didn’t even say thank you for the ride which was way out of my way not to mention I waited over 20 minutes in the car while they went in the bank.
Thanks Megan. I really feel so upset right now, they are so ungrateful. No wonder people get less generous the older they get, I feel used and will definitely not be so giving and offer rides in the future.
Should I confront them about it, say can’t you say thank you for the check considering I even drove you to the bank to cash it? I’m not the type that expects thank yous for what I do but this is really getting under my skin for some reason.