Everything For The Bride

For our wedding we don’t really want to register because we don’t need anything since we have been living together for the past three years. But we would love to accept money as a gift to pay for the honeymoon or put towards a down payment on a house. How do you word in a invitation that we arn’t registered but we want cash for our large expenses coming up?
OK, since everyone is trashing me on the subject, I’m the Matron of honor on this one and I was asking the question for the bride. I dont mean how can I ask for money in a formal invitation, I mean it more like for the shower. I’m going to be sending out invitations for her shower which is going to be a jack and jill and they dont need physical gifts. And everyone is trashing on this subject like she and I are unclassy to think that asking for money is wrong. It’s not like she wants to come out and say "I WANT MONEY" thats why we are asking, how should we got about this?
So if your going to write your unclassy and things like that then dont respond. I’ve seen it before that people note that money is accepted for help with honeymoon and such, welcome to 2009 people!!!
Thanks, just had to clear this one up for all you RUDE people that can’t respond nicely even though you have a difference of opinon.

Whether you are in the midst of wedding planning now, or were happily wedded years ago, what tips, ideas or advice can you share with other brides? What do you wish you had done differently, or what are you glad you did? What unique, personal touches did you include in your own wedding? Do you have any cool ideas on: party favors, wedding party gifts, bridesmaids attire, invitations/programs, child attendants, showers/bachelor(ette) parties, the ceremony/vows/etc, wedding cake, photography/videography, the honeymoon? (These are just ‘prompts’ to spark your memory – you don’t have to answer them all!!) I am finishing my wedding planner/workbook and would like to include tips from real-life brides. Your input and ideas would be a huge help!!

My granddaughter is getting married, I want to give her several gifts at once , I’ve chosen pretty gift storage boxes, filled with items for her home, that ,then can be used decoratively and for storage with some money tucked in here and there for her honeymoon. I plan to give it to her at the shower so that she can take care of it all before the wedding. I just don’t know if that’s acceptable.

Some couples are choosing to have a private destination wedding, meaning it is only the bride and groom. No guests invited. They go somewhere, get married, and the honeymoon is built right in. Then, when they return home they hold a reception with family and friends. So what do you think of this?

Do you like this? Why or why not?

I went to a wedding 2 months ago. It was bad enough my name wasn’t on the seating chart (even though I had RSVP-d) and the wedding coordinator had me stand by to see if a seat would open up as if I was a wedding crasher (I only stayed because my friends insisted even though I wanted to leave at that point) but after giving a generous gift I haven’t received a thank you card – not that I want one but at last I want to know the expensive gift was received and not lost (I know it was delivered successfully but it’s just the thought). Isn’t it rude to not acknowledge a gift or is that a thing of the past and I should get over it?
I’ve stopped talking to her since her wedding. It was a pretty big deal I was not accommodated and the wedding planner wanted me to finally sit with a bunch of strangers away from my friends and even then with attitude not believing I had RSVP-d. It was very awkward and she never apologized so screw the friendship, i wish I could find out if she sent cards to the others but is for some reason ignoring me. Very strange.
I have way more stress than an already married bride who went on a long vacation! So that’s no excuse to me at least. I have more bills and concerns than I know she has. Her biggest stress is probably figuring out what to do with all her nice presents. I’d trade any day.
I don’t know the groom so I wouldn’t expect him to have his first communication with me by sending a thank you card for a gift I sent his wife.
Libby, you are way off, I am definitely not a me-me type of person. The RSVP was acknowledged (she called my sister to talk about the wedding and they talked about me attending so I know it wasn’t lost). A YEAR to send a thank-you card? Maybe back in the pony express days. Jealous? Not even, that is so childish, I would’ve taken a nice honeymoon if I got married and they were already living together and have their jobs so it’s not like they were busy moving or getting jobs. I for sure wouldn’t be so rude and ignore gifts i received them but at least some people get it.
To clarify, I did address the gift to both of them but I guess I was trying to say it would be weird if he responded to me for the first time in response to a present when I haven’t met him. I used to be close to her (lived with her for 3 years) but have drifted over the years, just see her now and then at special occasions. And none of my friends including my sister took a gift (which I know is tacky but they are very broke and told me that was the reason why). I’m broke too but bought two items from her registry so I guess I should get over it and break ties after this whole fiasco.